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Pamela Lauren Wilder

March 12, 1954 ~ January 11, 2024 (age 69) 69 Years Old

Pamela Wilder Obituary

Pamela Wilder, 69, a long time resident of Southern New Hampshire passed away in North Carolina last week.  She was raised in Chelmsford, Massachusetts where she was surrounded by siblings who loved her. Pam is survived by her daughter, step son, sister and brothers, grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her parents and a sister. 

Pam was an avid horse lover starting from a young age. In her teens she won Reserve Grand Champion from the American Quarter Horse Association. Trophies, ribbons and award blankets would decorate her home for decades to come as this passion followed her throughout her adult life. She enjoyed bowling as a recreation, even joining a league in Germany earning herself numerous badges for her skills. Pam was resourceful, inquisitive and enjoyed life. 

Married to the late Gary Wilder of Westford, Massachusetts, Pam and Gary spent decades together building memories. Together they enjoyed traveling, raising their grandchildren, caring for animals and most importantly spending time by each other’s side. While their travels brought them to many places, they lived primarily in New England close to their family and friends. 

Pam was a woman with a true heart. Her passion for comforting others was felt in her professional career, and through multiple efforts of giving back to her community, such as leading horse clubs, volunteering in shelters and participating in fundraising events. On the weekends Pam would frequently be found supporting these different causes for the benefit of animals or healthcare related experience. Pam loved animals, and was blessed to have fostered several horses and rescued at least a dozen cats in her lifetime. 

Pam loved her family, they meant the world to her. She spoke lovingly of how much they meant to her and how much joy she enjoyed by spending time with them. She was the first to drop everything and run to the side of someone who needed her. Her friends also meant so much to her, lifelong friendships that supported her throughout her lifetime. She had a warmth about her that made you want to hug her. Pam was also a wonderful baker, teaching her daughter and grandchildren how to master the perfect chocolate chip cookie and apple pie. 

Burial services will be held in the Spring of 2024 when her family and friends will gather to celebrate her vivacious life. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you please consider making a donation to your local animal shelter in her name. 


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